Dr. Oz Takes on Libido Posted on October 25th, 2010
If you’re female and over 40 chances are libido could be an issue. Declining hormones account for 40 percent of women complaining about vaginal dryness (sandpaper sex)vaginal yeast infections and a general lack of spice in the bedroom. Today Dr. Oz focused on three low-cost strategies. For vaginal dryness, a silicone lubricant was suggested. A probiotic insert Pro-B Capsules insures healthy vaginal bacteria thus eliminating odor and discharge. Finally “Vagifem” vaginal estrogen inserts help to improve the elasticity of vaginal tissue and increase vaginal moisture. Now just find the right partner and enjoy!
50 Years on The Pill Posted on May 10th, 2010
Today is Mother’s day. Fifty years ago today marks the anniversary of that provocative announcement that introduced “the pill” to the world. That announcement gave women a new “take” on sex, fertility, career and their world. The pill meant reassurance and control. Today, a world without “the pill” is unimaginable. It is used to treat acne, skip periods, plan children and give women freedom in the bedroom. The pill took away the stigma of an unwanted pregnancy (in the 50’s and 60’s that was huge) and the fear of a back alley abortion or giving a baby up for adoption.
I remember being a nervous bride at the age of 21, and asking my doctor for a prescription for “the pill.” Ortho Novum it was called then – little pink pills in a round container. My time on the pill did not last long. In those days, there was far more estrogen than contained in the pill today. I felt bloated and miserable and stopped taking it after 3 months or so. Then there was the condom, spermicidal foam, the IUD, the diaphragm and a lot of prayer. Finally after the birth of my second child I had a tubal ligation. That sealed the vault on the worry of an unwanted pregnancy forever. Even though the pill has been around for 50 years and has opened a centuries-needed doorway to female equality in a man’s world, sexual liberation has come with a price. Girls are now “estrogenized” early and becoming sexually active in their teens, there are more sexually transmitted diseases and estrogen in birth control pills ends up in the drinking water. In 2008, Americans spent $3.5 billion on birth control pills and the one pill, Ortho Novum that was available when I was a young woman, has blossomed into 40 varieties today. There is no question the pill has enabled women to shed the shackles of a life sentence to domesticity. Thanks to the pill, we have emerged from the shadows of our significant others to find our own place in the world. There are issues with the pill however. There are side effects that range from annoying to dangerous, e.g. weight gain, acne, irritability, anxiety, memory loss, lost hair, yeast problems, etc. The dangerous ones are myocardial infarction, thromboembolic disease, cerebrovascular disease, carcinoma, metabolic disorders (diabetes), hypertension, headaches, amenorrhea, disorders of lactation, and infertility. The pill disrupts the female endocrine system because it contains synthetic estrogen. The dilemma that every woman faces, how to enjoy sex and not get pregnant continues – pill or no pill.
More Women Are Ditching the Pill Posted on April 2nd, 2010
As more women become conscious about eating organic and going pesticide, hormone and chemical free, they are having second thoughts about using the Pill. A recent study by Texas A & M University showed that more women are making the choice to scrap the pill which suppresses ovulation and are looking for chemical-free birth control options. Ovulation is a powerful time for many women who claim they have more energy and libido when estrogen levels peak, according to Jerilyn Prior M.D., of the University of British Columbia. They are also more attractive to men during this time. Studies showed that lap dancers got more tips just prior to ovulation and that the cycles of women on the pill stayed relatively flat impacting their tastes in men. Estrogen from birth control pills is passed through the urine and ends up in sewage treatment plants, affecting fragile ecosystems and in some areas, turning male frogs into female. What are the solutions to this age-old dilemma for women worldwide? George Bush said abstinence – perish the thought! IUD’s are gaining popularity but these too can have negative side effects – heavy bleeding, pain at the insertion site and the problem of becoming dislodged and traveling to other parts of the body. Condoms and spermicidal foams are a more reliable but unromantic option. I recommend that women test their vaginal mucous, chart their cycles and use a nifty testing device that shows when a woman is fertile.
Dr Laura Berman on Oprah Show speaks out on teen sex Posted on April 27th, 2009
Laura Berman M.D., sex therapist and author was recently interviewed on Oprah. She suggested that teenage girls should be given vibrators following a frank discussion about sex, the female anatomy and pleasure. This suggestion was met with shock and horror with some Oprah viewers.
Good, pleasurable sex is not just an automatic “given.” It takes knowledge of what works and does not work for you. It takes a caring, loving, experienced partner and it takes time and practice.
I learned the details of sex across the kitchen table from my mother when I was six years old. It sounded pretty horrifying to me. Then I accidentally saw my father’s penis when I was nine and I was horrified. You mean, something like “that” is going to go in “there,” I thought. It was pretty puzzling if not deeply concerning at the time.
I believe that we have a whole society of people who are pretty hung up about sex. I agree with Dr. Berman that girls need to be encouraged and educated to value and appreciate sex and their bodies and not waste their precious commodity on pimply-faced youths and their gropings in washrooms and the back seats of cars.
I raised two daughters who now from all accounts have healthy sex lives. At the time when they were teenagers, one of the other mothers in our crowd told me that when her daughter turned 15 she gave her a vibrator, a book about sex and a tube of KY jelly. She told her daughter to go ahead and experiment. Looking back on it, I should have done the same with my daughters.
Sex is healthy, pleasurable and health-enhancing. Here’s to vibrators! What do you think?