Dr Laura Berman on Oprah Show speaks out on teen sex Posted on April 27th, 2009
Laura Berman M.D., sex therapist and author was recently interviewed on Oprah. She suggested that teenage girls should be given vibrators following a frank discussion about sex, the female anatomy and pleasure. This suggestion was met with shock and horror with some Oprah viewers.
Good, pleasurable sex is not just an automatic “given.” It takes knowledge of what works and does not work for you. It takes a caring, loving, experienced partner and it takes time and practice.
I learned the details of sex across the kitchen table from my mother when I was six years old. It sounded pretty horrifying to me. Then I accidentally saw my father’s penis when I was nine and I was horrified. You mean, something like “that” is going to go in “there,” I thought. It was pretty puzzling if not deeply concerning at the time.
I believe that we have a whole society of people who are pretty hung up about sex. I agree with Dr. Berman that girls need to be encouraged and educated to value and appreciate sex and their bodies and not waste their precious commodity on pimply-faced youths and their gropings in washrooms and the back seats of cars.
I raised two daughters who now from all accounts have healthy sex lives. At the time when they were teenagers, one of the other mothers in our crowd told me that when her daughter turned 15 she gave her a vibrator, a book about sex and a tube of KY jelly. She told her daughter to go ahead and experiment. Looking back on it, I should have done the same with my daughters.
Sex is healthy, pleasurable and health-enhancing. Here’s to vibrators! What do you think?